“The goal of being alone should not be to prepare us for couplehood. Rather, the goal of being single should be to learn to fulfill ourselves, to meet our needs, and to develop as a human being regardless of whether or not we choose to enter into a relationship. By learning to love and care for ourselves, we diminish the risk of starving for someone else to fill the void within our souls; a void that only we can truly fill.” from Single & Satisfied. Wow – that really says it all doesn’t it? Having been unhappily married and then single for the last 5 years, this is the work I’ve been doing. Thinking back over the last hew years, it was hard at first to live alone, but now I acutally enjoy it. And I am much better at filling that void myself instead of relying on someon else to fill it. I’m not cynical about relationships – oo the contrary, I know they can be wonderful. But how great it’s been to develop the relationship with myself!!
Loving your Self on Valentines Day..on February 14, 2007